Post birthday musing: Grief's capacity to heal

The past 8 months has been a difficult time for me to navigate through life since the loss of my father. Toko-pa wrote that grief is healing in motion, the reaction from being torn from what you love....
And indeed, how easy it’s been to find tears welling up with a brief mention of his name, the sight of an item that belonged to him, the smell of his favourite food, the thought of never having that chance to say goodbye...

44 years ago he held me in the cradle of his arm, as he marvelled at this little bundle of creation that was me. I spent my birthday this year in memory of him, in the company of family, without the need to sanction the dosage of our loss. To allow the unravelling of healing to begin, to come undone with the sorrow and guilt that were not able to find light, and to keep feeling alive in the power of grief’s capacity to love.
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